[Elsie]

A clean and honest Breakup is the Best Way to do it. I have been in a similar situation and I tried to be nice and tried not to hurt a good friend, but he kept hanging on. I should have ended it point blank, but me not wanting to hurt him, just drug it on and on, in the long run, I probably hurt him worse. Its best to end it as soon as you knew he wasnt the man for you. Why waste time on a relationship that is going nowhere, Dont waste your time or his.
I have learned its best to do it as soon as you realize its not going to last. Its a very hard thing to do, but either way someone is going to be hurt.
Im sorry you had to go through this, I think we all have been there, I know I have too many times. That is why I am still single.......if I cant be with a man who will be my best friend first of all, and no drama with the relationship Im not going there. We all have good friends that there is no effort to have a friendship with, why cant we have the same kind of relationship with some you want to be with the rest of your life,
Just my 2 cents worth